Month: <span>February 2017</span>

A Blog’s Purpose

 

So here’s my first blog in over a year, say what?! I know, I know.. It’s been a while- which is what I talked about in my last blog post…over a year ago.

So I have to ask myself- what is keeping me from blogging? It is most certainly on my weekly to do list, I know the importance of it to connect and engage an audience, so why don’t I do it?

Well I look at a blog as an opportunity to share and learn… share more about me and life’s challenges, and help people learn or see a different perspective on something. An opportunity to feel inspired- either by “she gets it” or “wow I didn’t know that”.

I think about when I am most likely to read blogs, and continually find that it’s when it promises a solution to a problem. For example, “7 ways to feel happier”, “Top 10 ways to turn your business into a 6 figure company”, “With this simple trick, you can make your marriage happier”… the headlines of “how to” and promising magic formulas are endless. And it sells. Any business or marketer knows that.

Which is why advertisements all have one thing in common- they make you believe that you are missing something without their product, and with it you will gain something you can’t pass up- like happiness, love, success- those are the easy sells. Why do you think so many commercials show happy people doing something fun? Because somewhere it triggers in your mind… “oh wow, that looks great- I want to feel that way, oh what are they selling? They are drinking coca-cola… maybe I will too.” This is not usually a very conscious process, but I can assure you this is what happens.

So back to blogging. My struggle has been how to engage people- trust me, I want to use my training and knowledge to teach, but also promising the “one fix to your relationship problems” does not feel genuine to me. Because if there is one thing I know, life and struggles are complicated- and if there was a quick fix- you wouldn’t need therapy and the divorce rate wouldn’t be as high as it is. Anything that seems too easy and too good to be true is.

I want to be genuine. I want to connect. I want you to get to know me and how I struggle with life too. This is not my diary, but I want to be authentic. And I want to teach. So I’m changing the way I’m looking at blogging. I’m finding my own way to define it and want to write about what’s happening in the world and some struggles as well as positive things we can all relate to. I want you to feel inspired by it.

I believe that each human has a deep desire to transform and reach their true potential. And this is what I want to speak to.

We can live ordinary or extraordinary lives. So by opening the door to discuss psychological, social, physical and environmental issues that we all deal with- my goal is to help move you from confusion and limitation to clarity and expansiveness.

So if this sounds like something you are interested in, sign up to receive the blogs directly to your inbox. No, your inbox won’t be flooded. I promise not to write more than 2 blog posts a month.. which would be a huge success compared to my 1 blog post in 2016. So let’s do this.. I’m ready to start sharing!

How to live a more PASSIONATE life

Do you ever feel like life gets mundane and you are just going through the motions? You wake up each day, go through your same routine, checking things off a never ending to do list, go to bed and start it all over the next day?

 

I watched this amazing documentary last night called “Life” showing animals all over the world “overcoming challenges”. In the animal world this means being able to eat, reproduce and protect their young. I was absolutely amazed at how simple their life appeared to be, yet so fulfilling and adventurous, because animals live in the moment.

That’s all they can conceptualize- so whatever each moment brings, they are fully engaged. If danger presents, they go into survival mode, if they need to eat, they go into hunting mode, if they are relaxing- they are there fully.

If you have pets, you can understand this. Notice their reactions when it’s time to eat, go on a walk, cuddle, when you walk in the door and when you leave. Each day may be the same, but being so involved in each moment allows every experience to be new and rich. Have you ever walked outside for a brief moment and when you come back in, your dog reacts like you’ve been gone for days?

 

Why is it so hard for us to do this? What makes humans different? It’s because we spend countless hours, days, years… our life … thinking. As I went on a run this morning, I realized afterward that I hadn’t even looked at the scenery, I was so caught up in planning my day. Don’t you know the feeling when you are driving, but so caught up in thinking, you miss a turn or don’t even remember the journey when you arrive at your destination?

When we are so caught up in worrying about the past, thinking about the future, work, our family, friends, etc. (the list of things to worry about is never-ending) we have no time to enjoy what each moment brings. Therefore, all our moments run together. How can we feel truly connected with the people around us when our mind is ruling the conversation with thoughts, judgments, and worries?

“We can learn not to keep situations or events alive in our minds, but to return our attention continuously to the pristine, timeless, present moment, rather than our thoughts and emotions”- Eckhart Tolle

How to create more passion, fulfillment and GET OUT OF YOUR MIND:

  • NOTICE: Start to notice and recognize your “worry thoughts.” You can know they are worry thoughts if they are constant, consuming, start with “what if”, and you are not doing anything to solve the problem or move forward- but instead feeling more powerless and taking your energy from the now and focusing it on the problem.
  • BREATHE: When you feel disconnected from people or your current experience, stuck in worry thoughts, take a few deep breaths. It will help you connect to your body and in turn the present moment. Maybe even repeat the mantra “let it go” as you inhale and exhale.
  • BE MINDFUL: Practice mindfulness in each task you perform. This could be as simple as folding the laundry, doing the dishes, brushing your teeth- practice being fully engaged and focusing all of your attention on that task. This is not easy, but with practice, you can find enjoyment from these simple, mundane tasks and will re-connect to the beauty and richness each moment holds and in turn live a more vital and fulfilling life.

 

 

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